When my kids are grown, I can have pretty, white furniture and antique decor on the tables. I can have beautifully draped curtains, and tables with sharp corners. I can have a luxurious bathtub all to myself. And I'll have plenty of time and energy to keep it looking like it belongs on HGTV. However, I only get 18 years of fingerprints, and crayon marks, and dirty clothes, and milky counters, and smashed blueberries, and messy baths, and strange smells, and glue covered tables. Then, when peace settles on our home as our last child steps out the door, I know I will desperately yearn for that dirty house once more. I'd easily trade my dream Fixer Upper house for another 18 years with my children...maybe :). For the signs of their life, of their exploration, of their growth, of their happiness...my happiness.
Until then, I want to be a mom that puts the dishes aside to do an art project and leaves the laundry in the basket to read my kids a book. I want to be a mom who forgets to clean the toilets because she was too busy laughing with her kids and one that orders a pizza because it's more important to cuddle the baby who needs comforting. My generation is too caught up in the notion that we should have a designer home thats needs to look perfect when a guest arrives (I'm guilty!). And it's okay to create a nice space for your family and want your guests to be invited into a clean home. But let's get real, ladies. Most of us are in the middle of raising babies and toddlers. We don't have time to do it all, and still stay sane. We should feel comfortable allowing people to come in, see our honest day-to-day life, and just enjoy the fellowship. I know I feel more comfortable at a playdate when the woman's home isn't perfection. The mess is real and it makes me feel content to know someone else is in my boat. With that said, here's a tour of our home: 14 signs you're a (good) mom. And to my mom and mother-in-law, I promise it's not usually this bad!
1. A sink overflowing with dirty dishes
2. A toilet paper roll that makes you wonder if it's safe to wipe
5. Toys in your "me-space" (long gone are the pretty candles, a captivating book, and a glass of wine)
7. A kitchen counter that becomes a dumping grounds for the day's activities
8. A stove that shows signs a meal was prepared, but no time to be wiped down
9. A refrigerator that looks like you simply shoved everything in it from the recent grocery trip because you had to tend to the hungry, crying children who were trying to kill one another
10. Your well-balanced lunch, because you're too exhausted to make a PB & J (not even including the yogurt--that remains from the kids' breakfast five hours ago)
11. Left out milk, hopefully still good enough to put back in the fridge?
12. The laundry stays in this state for approximately five days (while you pick from it here and there), until there are no other clothing options and it must be moved upstairs
13. A complete disaster after each meal. Seriously. How does this happen?
14. A prayer that your children will sleep long enough to let you recoup for yet another glorious, trying, tear your hair out, wish it would never end, fall to the floor crying, seemingly endless, blessed day of child rearing
Can you relate? What signs of a (good) mom do you see in your home?